Love shouldn’t be like going to a clothing store and hoping to find an outfit according to someone else’s numeric idea of your size. Love should be tailored to fit me, and you, and you, and you. Maybe we fit well together, maybe we don’t.

For five years now I’ve been exploring alternate forms of love and relationships. I see a lot of labels used in non-mainstream relationships: kinky, poly, relationship anarchists, etc. The labels are endless. I heard the term “designer relationships,” and I realized that’s the term I like. It leaves freedom to figure out what best works for me, and isn’t a one-size fits all approach.

This blog is a diary, a sounding board, and a door to communication and connection about tailoring our relationships to best fit our needs.